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"The bestselling authors of the classic Difficult Conversations teach us how to turn evaluations, advice, criticisms, and coaching into productive listening and learning We swim in an ocean of feedback. Bosses, colleagues, customers-but also family, friends, and in-laws-they all have "suggestions" for our performance, parenting, or appearance. We know that feedback is essential for healthy relationships and professional development-but we dread it and often dismiss it. That's because receiving feedback sits at the junction of two conflicting human desires. We do want to learn and grow. And we also want to be accepted just as we are right now. Thanks for the Feedback is the first book to address this tension head on. It explains why getting feedback is so crucial yet so challenging, and offers a powerful framework to help us take on life's blizzard of off-hand comments, annual evaluations, and unsolicited advice with curiosity and grace. The business world spends billions of dollars and millions of hours each year teaching people how to give feedback more effectively. Stone and Heen argue that we've got it backwards and show us why the smart money is on educating receivers- in the workplace and in personal relationships as well. Coauthors of the international bestseller Difficult Conversations, Stone and Heen have spent the last ten years working with businesses, nonprofits, governments, and families to determine what helps us learn and what gets in our way. With humor and clarity, they blend the latest insights from neuroscience and psychology with practical, hard-headed advice. The book is destined to become a classic in the world of leadership, organizational behavior, and education"--
"The bestselling authors of the classic Difficult Conversations teach us how to turn evaluations, advice, criticisms, and coaching into productive listening and learning We swim in an ocean of feedback. Bosses, colleagues, customers--but also family, friends, and in-laws--they all have "suggestions" for our performance, parenting, or appearance. We know that feedback is essential for healthy relationships and professional development--but we dread it and often dismiss it. That's because receiving feedback sits at the junction of two conflicting human desires. We do want to learn and grow. And we also want to be accepted just as we are right now. Thanks for the Feedback is the first book to address this tension head on. It explains why getting feedback is so crucial yet so challenging, and offers a powerful framework to help us take on life's blizzard of off-hand comments, annual evaluations, and unsolicited advice with curiosity and grace"--
Discover how to turn evaluations, advice, criticisms, and coaching into productive listening and learning. Receiving feedback sits at the junction of two conflicting human desires: we do want to learn and grow, and we also want to be accepted just as we are right now. The authors offer a powerful framework to help us take on life's blizzard of off-hand comments, annual evaluations, and unsolicited advice with curiosity and grace.
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How to give feedback, but also how to receive it. Very repetitive throughout the book. TL;DR: Feedback can come in the form of appreciation, evaluation, or coaching. The task of the recipient is to learn to separate one from the other. There are some techniques explained on how to go from “this is wrong” to “explain to me” without tragedies and conflicts.
It's definitely worth a skim through or a read, but do not get the audiobook. It's horrendously produced.
A surprisingly detailed book on receiving feedback well
The book covers the many aspects of receiving feedback well with elaborate detail. I want to say “complete” detail, but I don't know what I don't know.
Starting with the three triggers we deal with in receiving feedback, the book dives deep into various perspectives around the triggers related to the truth we believe, our relationships, and how we identify ourselves. Each of these aspects are illustrated brilliantly, and hilariously, with clear examples. It is tempting to build a list of all the lists contained in this book (I'm sure someone has already done this).
Finally, this is one of the books that tells you what you already know and it is all the more poignant for it.