It Ends with Us
Ratings709
Average rating3.6
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I didn't read the summary for this book or any reviews--I just read it on hype alone--but this book's entire foundation is abuse and suicide trigger warnings, so please proceed with caution.
Both Lily and Ryle are traumatized people with terrible decision-making skills which, fine, who isn't? But this book tries to make the abuser sympathetic and (arguably) a victim himself, which definitely made me feel a certain type of way.
People can experience a garbage life and still choose not to hurt other people. No matter how much an abuser paints themselves as a victim, they *choose* abuse every single time no matter how many times they gaslight and apologize. And yet the author tries to rewrite that naked truth why? So Lily can decide to keep her abuser's baby, and invite him back into her life so they can divorce and still co-parent together?
All of Ryle's "redeeming" qualities are constantly repeated ad nauseum to maybe illustrate Lily's unprocessed childhood trauma masquerading as love? Or the author trying to convince us that telling an abuser they're a father will magically be their come-to-Jesus moment.
Lily is blind to and then habitually ignores red flags, and Ryle can't stop waving them around from that first moment. That's when I knew this book would mean a lot of heavy sighing and face-palming.
Then enter Elisa, enabler extradinaire, who likely knows everything about her brother but says nothing until it's almost too late. I find that hard to believe. I almost stopped reading at the cafe scene about the older brother.
The book is written well enough, although the repetition of phrases like "and just like that", Ryle's scrubs, etc. were grating.
Lily and Atlas kept me reading. They were the most well-rounded and believable characters, but the rest of the book was a big yikes. The flashbacks added to the story instead of detracted.
But, I can't shake how apologetic the author is about this abuser. The ending seemed paper-thin and left me on edge.
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One of the worst books I have ever read. It was alright at start but it was such a fast descent to trash. Like forgiving the abuse was bad enough but having a baby with the abuser and having to deal with him. God what a shitty novel.
I get it's inspired from the authors life but still doesn't make these things right.The abuser is based on the author's father, so obviously she will try to paint down the issue. But it's so unacceptable. The novel borderline romanticise abuse.
Like in real life you most would run and never look back. The novel shouldn't give message like being this forgiving, and breaking the cycle should have had removing the person from your life too.
One good thing the book did is it's making me appreciate other booktok books. I think that it could be so much worse.
I hated reading the book, I had zero attachment to the characters and their relationships whatsoever.
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This book was so interesting in the way it displayed certain topics, I personally am not the biggest fan of Colleen hoover’s writing but this book was really good! It clearly demonstrates how ab**e can affect how a person sees things and how it can change someone and how it affects everyone differently. I would give this book a higher rating, however I feel like it does gloss over what Happens in the final few chapters.
le escribe cartas a la fckin ellen degeneredes (como se escriba), no digo más.
Good read
A little unrelatable and unremarkable.
It gets the message across, and in an effective way.
খুবই ফালতু লেগেছে পড়ে। যেমন ফালতু গদ্যের স্টাইল, তেমনি ফালতু গল্পের বিষয়বস্তুর উপস্থাপন। তার উপরে ন্যাকামির চোটে মাথা ধরে গেসলো। বইটা শেষ করে রিভিউ হিসেবে একটা লাইনও লিখতে ইচ্ছে করছিল না! তবু কয়েকটা বিষয় উল্লেখ করি: এই বইতে খুব অন্যায় একটা কাজ করেছেন লেখিকা, ডোমেস্টিক অ্যাবিউজকে গ্লোরিফাই করেছেন। শারীরিক অত্যাচার সত্ত্বেও কোনো কোনো নারী ক্যানো নিজের পার্টনারকে ত্যাগ করতে পারেনা, এটার একটা প্রচণ্ড অপমানজনক যুক্তি দেখানোর চেষ্টা করেছেন উনি। এই গল্পের প্রধান নারীচরিত্রকে দিয়ে এমন কিছু কাজ করিয়েছেন, নিজের আত্মসম্মানের ব্যাপারে সচেতন কোনো স্বাধীনচেতা মানুষ এইসব কাজ করতে পারেনা। কিভাবে এই বই এত জনপ্রিয় হলো ভেবে আশ্চর্য হচ্ছি। অবশ্য Animal কিংবা Kabir Singh-এর মতো সিনেমা যদি সুপারহিট হয় তাহলে এই বই কী দোষ করেছে!
I really enjoyed this - it was a different take that really brings a new perspective to these types of situations. I can't wait to read the second one now
this was a tough read and i went into this blind but god i feel so bad for lily i cant stop crying for her
I read this because I feel like I'm the only person in the world who hasn't. Colleen Hoover can tell a story well. Her characters have agency and the pacing makes for a page-turner. The domestic violence disturbed me–probably because I didn't want to read reviews before I read the book. If I had, I would have seen the warnings. I'm not sure I would recommend this book for that reason alone, but I'd recommend Colleen Hoover.
I decided to read this book before the movie comes out. I almost gave this book a 4, but the cheesy, unrealistic dialogue between Lily and Ryle before they married almost had me abandon this book. However, Lily's journal and Atlas kept me going. You'll know what I mean if you choose to read this book. I'm on to the sequel now, only because of Atlas.
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It Ends With Us (It Ends With Us #1)
by Colleen Hoover
𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫 𝐑𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 ⇝ ★★★★★
🦋 𝐅𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐐𝐮𝐨𝐭𝐞 🦋
“Sometimes it is the one who loves you who hurts you the most.”
𝐌𝐲 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 ↴
I finally read it! I finally f-ing read it! And you know what, y’all were right, the book was so good I finished it in 3 days, 3 DAYS PEOPLE! Idk about you all but that’s fast for me. This book had my emotions all over the place. I thought part one was all unicorns and rainbows, I was smiling, I was giggling, overall I was happy with the contents of the book (from what I was reading) and then Colleen said “surprise mf” and the whole Ryle burns his hand incident happens 🤦🏽♀️— jaw dropped and my heart shattered. For those who have read it, I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. He was so “perfect” and now I just can’t stand him. And then Atlas 😩 let’s just say I’m 100% #TeamAtlas. Part 2 of the book I kind of just figured Ryle was going to continue being abusive so I couldn’t bring myself to be happy for Lily when she decided to stay. I was very much done with Lily & Ryle and needed Lily & Atlas content 🙃 which is why I’m so excited to start the second book.
𝐓𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐖𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 ↴
Domestic violence, mentions of SA.
𝐖𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐈 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐲? ⇝ Yes, it’s a great book.
🫧 𝐇𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 📖
This is the single book that I'll say truly changed my life and the way i look at things.
Fuck it. Made it a quarter of the way through and it's basically unreadable. I hate all of the characters and there are no redeeming factors that will make me finish this. Basic writing, generic characters, predictable tropes. No.
This book was so real. It wasn't just a story, but a journey. It was a modification of a real life story, and it was engaging. It is the story of love and the challenges we face when love is blind. I know from experience that it is easier to stay in a bad marriage than it is to face the truth. I would recommend.
Book Filled with unnecessary Shex, I felt uncomfortable and disguised. Some chapters are based only around a kiss or a hug or whatever??. I found this so annoying and it turned me off of reading.
2,5
Tämä oli vähän ristiriitainen teos minulle. Idea oli hyvä ja ymmärsin kirjailijan motiivit teoksen kirjoittamiselle. Siitä huolimatta hahmot jäivät ehkä hieman etäisiksi tai jopa ärsyttäviksi. En oikein välitä myöskään liiasta populaarikulttuuriviittauksista ja vaikka päiväkirjan kirjoittaminen Ellenille tuntui tavallaan hauskalta idealta, se tuntui myös hieman väkinäiseltä ja nyt kun tietää hieman kyseisen julkkiksen taustaa niin jää vähän huono maku tästä...
Toisin sanoen tämä idea toisella toteutuksella olisi varmasti ollut osuvampi.
