Tomboy Survival Guide

This is the second book I read for my personal 24 in 48 challenge, and it was excellent. Ivan is a natural storyteller - each chapter flows seamlessly into the next, even though each is a separate vignette from their life, and they aren't chronological. I was never confused about where in the timeline we were; it was just like they were sitting down telling stories about their life, and that naturally ebbs and flows as people are reminded of different things that have happened to them.

It's not really fully clear whether Ivan is a transman, or simply non-binary, not that it should matter. They use they/them pronouns, and straddle the androgynous line enough that bathrooms and dressing rooms are a constant issue for them, one they touch on repeatedly through the book. Maybe if our bathrooms weren't so binary-focused, it wouldn't be as much of an issue when someone is gender-nonconforming!

The book moves between stories of Ivan's childhood in small-town Canada, their realization they are attracted to women, their experiences in largely male-dominated career fields, and their actual career as an author and public speaker. They talk about how their own family has been supportive of their transition (mostly) and how other parents have written them letters asking how to be supportive of their non-cisgender children. There are scenes of strangers being supportive, and scenes of shocking discrimination and transphobia.

The book is, overall, excellent, and a good introductory look at the life of a non-binary person. Ivan has written several other books, and I definitely want to track down Gender Failure, which they co-wrote with another non-binary person about, well, gender failure!

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I think part of the reason I love Coyote's writing so much is how much genuine care for other people seems to be in it. plus all the gender stuff but really, all the heartstrings.