I Hope We Choose Love

We must reject nihilism because that way lies fascism.

transform systems that centre getting even into systems that prioritize getting better

Half of the book was impenetrable; half was a masterpiece. Half of me wanted to start it over the moment I finished, the other half wanted to move on. (We compromised: I flipped back and reread maybe a tenth.) This was a library copy; I've ordered my own so I can mark it up.

Thom gets it. She gets power structures and distractions and ambiguity. Responsibility, consent, nuance, storytelling. Asking the right questions. Aspects of life I know well, so her thoughtful perspective lends absolute credibility to her writings on what I don't know as well or at all: it's one thing to be peripherally aware of violence against trans women, a whole different thing to read Thom's first-person experiences. Same with coming out, or mentoring/being mentored. How Thom navigates the world is quite different from anything I've ever experienced, and I can't say that I understood her every message... but to be a better ally I will keep trying.

that's a reread