Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Abusive and Controlling Men

Why Does He Do That?

Inside the Minds of Abusive and Controlling Men

2002 • 432 pages

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In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.

He says he loves you. So…why does he do that?

You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about:

• The early warning signs of abuse
• The nature of abusive thinking
• Myths about abusers
• Ten abusive personality types
• The role of drugs and alcohol
• What you can fix, and what you can’t
• And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely

“This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health


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Really powerful and insightful book, even for those who are not currently in abusive relationships. It really taught me a lot about abusive dynamics, not just in the context of romantic relationships, but in the context of society as a whole.

August 4, 2014

This is one of those books everyone should read before embarking on dating. Hopefully you never need to wonder if you are with an abuser.

December 3, 2024

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