When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

So great - will need to reread this for sure. Perfect antidote to the 2024 election results. 

I thought this would be a book on getting through difficult times, but really, this is a crash course in mindfulness and meditation. It was exactly the inspiration I needed to get back into a meditation practice, examine mindless habits I partake in to avoid discomfort, and try to practice self-compassion and outer-compassion at every turn. Plus a bunch of other gems. I underlined these pages like mad.

Oh, Pema. The trick to what she writes about is that it is so easy to understand intellectually, and so incredibly challenging to know emotionally, much less to actually pull off in the mess of day-to-day living. But that's the point, really: to keep trying. To let things be messy (and there's good messy and bad messy) and be in the messiness and know that the messiness isn't what we're supposed to escape from to our real lives, the messiness IS our real lives. Which we're constantly trying to run from. So, as usual, she's given me lots to think about in a few precious pages, and I know it's a book I'll be going back to.

One of my favorite passages:
“People have no respect for impermanence. We take no delight in it; in fact, we despair of it. We regard it as pain. We try to resist it by making things that will last–forever, we say–things that we don't have to wash, things that we don't have to iron. Somehow, in the process of trying to deny that things are always changing, we lose our sense of the sacredness of life. We tend to forget that we are part of the natural scheme of things.”

(Re-read this book - I think for the 3rd time? - five years after this first review. It just gets better, and this is the quote that I'm loving the best these days: “To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.”)