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Gretchen Rubin had an epiphany one rainy afternoon in the unlikeliest of places: a city bus. "The days are long, but the years are short," she realized. "Time is passing, and I'm not focusing enough on the things that really matter." In that moment, she decided to dedicate a year to her happiness project.In this lively and compelling account of that year, Rubin carves out her place alongside the authors of bestselling memoirs such as Julie and Julia, The Year of Living Biblically, and Eat, Pray, Love. With humor and insight, she chronicles her adventures during the twelve months she spent test-driving the wisdom of the ages, current scientific research, and lessons from popular culture about how to be happier.Rubin didn't have the option to uproot herself, nor did she really want to; instead she focused on improving her life as it was. Each month she tackled a new set of resolutions: give proofs of love, ask for help, find more fun, keep a gratitude notebook, forget about results. She immersed herself in principles set forth by all manner of experts, from Epicurus to Thoreau to Oprah to Martin Seligman to the Dalai Lama to see what worked for her—and what didn't.Her conclusions are sometimes surprising—she finds that money can buy happiness, when spent wisely; that novelty and challenge are powerful sources of happiness; that "treating" yourself can make you feel worse; that venting bad feelings doesn't relieve them; that the very smallest of changes can make the biggest difference—and they range from the practical to the profound.Written with charm and wit, The Happiness Project is illuminating yet entertaining, thought-provoking yet compulsively readable. Gretchen Rubin's passion for her subject jumps off the page, and reading just a few chapters of this book will inspire you to start your own happiness project.
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Há muito tempo que não lia um livro de auto-ajuda e é sempre aquele tipo de livros que nunca dizemos que lemos porque é foleiro e transmite a ideia que não estamos bem quando até estamos. Até ao dia em que não estamos e não sabemos bem porquê.
Acho que a história da experiência da Gretchen Rubin é baseada um pouco nessa ideia: ela já era feliz, apenas queria ser mais sem negar a vida dela, “sem ter de partir pelo mundo” em busca da felicidade. Decidida a passar um ano a descobrir a sua fórmula pessoal para ser mais feliz, a autora decidiu abordar 12 aspectos da sua vida (um por mês) tentando várias estratégias, pesquisando, fazendo experiências, acertando e errando. Resumidamente:
Janeiro - vitalidade; Fevereiro - casamento; Março - trabalho; Abril - ser uma mãe melhor; Maio - lazer; Junho - amizade; Julho - dinheiro; Agosto - Eternidade; Setembro - perseguir uma paixão; Outubro - prestar mais atenção; Novembro - atitude; Dezembro - Todas as anteriores.
Em cada capítulo, além de falar da sua experiência ela cita várias personalidades famosas e obscuras, menciona estudos sobre o tema, conta situações de amigos e partilha comentários que as pessoas fizeram no seu blogue. Por ser uma boa escritora ela passa toda esta informação de uma forma muito interessante, nunca chata, o que acabou por tornar toda a leitura relativamente agradável e pouco “auto-ajuda” como em livros que li antes deste. Devido à quantidade de informação acabei por fazer uma série de anotações no meu kindle (23 no total) sobre como encontrar ou produzir felicidade a cada momento da nossa vida em vez de esperarmos que os momentos de felicidade “aconteçam”. Alguns exemplos:
“It is by studying little things,” wrote Samuel Johnson, “that we attain the great art of having as little misery, and as much happiness as possible.”
“We tend to think that we we'll be slightly happier in the future than we are in the present.”
“Having some kind of physical way of preserving information keeps good ideas vivid and creates unexpected juxtapositions.”
“Unless you make consistent efforts, your friendships aren't going to survive”.
“A common theme in religion and philosophy, as well as in catastrophe memoirs, is the admonition to live fully and thankfully in the present.”
“Refusing to be happy because someone else is unhappy, though, is a bit like cleaning your plate because babies are starving in India.”
“It is easy to be heavy; hard to be light”.
“The days are long, but the years are short.”
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On a personal level this was about a 2.5 star read. I was hoping for more insights and revelations for myself because of the buzz I'd heard. However, I can see this being a 4 star book for those who find it at the right time in their journey.
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