The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

Stars for helping me find a path I could walk and be happy on. Reading it now, the focus on sex gets kinda boring, but I know that at the time it was so very important to stress that sex is fun and good for you.

A really interesting book that is broader than it is deep and has value for most folks, not just those curious about nonmonogamy. (Although I agree it gets pretty dorky at times and could've been a lot shorter.) Plenty of good writing on boundaries, owning your own emotions, dealing with insecurity or jealousy, building networks and community, and embracing a sense of abundance when it comes to love and intimacy in all relationships. Even in the 2017 edition, parts of this seem dated when it comes to discussions of gender and sexuality. But it is not for nothing that the authors have decades of combined experience building polyamorous lives and networks.

Informative and inclusive, but full of hippie-era concepts. glad to have read it, could've been structured better.

Read this book because I was interested in challenging some commonly held worldviews. It was interesting to learn about such an alternative lifestyle and I definitely learnt a thing or two.

A lot of this book discusses how to behave ethically either in friendships or more serious relationships and there is actually a solid amount of good relationship advice - particularly pertaining to communication, respect, consent and asking for what you want. For me personally however the writing style was a little grating at times and the last third of the book increasingly become less and less relevant (and interesting) for me. This book is also much more applicable to a female perspective than a man's, and even though they use a lot of gender-neutral language, the overall style is geared towards a female reader (general language, use of examples, stories, etc.).

2-stars. It was alright. Some good parts in it.

Don't be fooled by the title or sub-title. While this book does focus on polyamory, open relationships and more it mostly works on the bases of having a a healthy relationship with communication, honesty, sex, and working out underlining problems like outside influence that could be breaking down your relationship's or your own happiness. This isn't trying to force you into an open relationship lifestyle but if you have an unmovable idea of what relationships or people should be don't read this book.
This book is written with a good sense of humor and doesn't read like a psych textbook or thesis paper.

Communication, boundaries, respect, compassion, mindfulness, conflict resolution, growth ... and being a better person. Not what I was expecting from this curiously-titled book.The title. Oh, the title. I understand the need to take back the word: I started reading Dan Savage back when he asked readers to address him as “Hey, Faggot”. (That was before podcasts, kids). It's a noble cause. But how many potential readers have they lost because of it?As it is, they're preaching to the choir. I love the title, but only upon reflection. And I wish I had ignored the title years ago, picked it up, read it, absorbed it. There's so much love and wisdom here. Some of it I've picked up already over the years... but it would've been nice to have a guide.So, to the maybe three people who are still reading my words: please read this book. Despite the title. Despite the Poly, if that's not your thing. Married, single, monogamous, monogamish, as long as you're human and you wish to deal lovingly with other fellow humans, there will be much you can learn here. It's a world-changing book, on par with [b:Nonviolent Communication 71730 Nonviolent Communication A Language of Life Marshall B. Rosenberg http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1170788697s/71730.jpg 2766138] and [b:Sex at Dawn 7640261 Sex at Dawn The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality Christopher Ryan http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1291105594s/7640261.jpg 10168576].