The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating
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Life Is Never Mainly About Love and Marriage. So Learn to Live and Date for More. Many of you grew up assuming that marriage would meet all of your needs and unlock God's purposes for you. But God has far more planned for you than your future marriage. Not Yet Married is not about waiting quietly in the corner of the world for God to bring you "the one," but about inspiring you to live and date for more now. If you follow Jesus, the search for a spouse is no longer a pursuit of the perfect person, but a pursuit of more of God. He will likely write a love story for you different than the one you would write for yourself, but that's because he loves you and knows how to write a better story. This book was written to help you find real hope, happiness, and purpose in your not-yet-married life.
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I bought this book a year or so ago based on the synopsis, thinking, “One day I'll read this. Probably.” Like so many other books I've bought, I put if off. I wish I had read it sooner though because now I am dating/we're planning to get married before the year's end, and there is a lot in this book that would have been helpful to think through before getting to this point (e.g., stewarding singleness well, pursuing God more and pursuing my self-serving plans less, trusting God and praying more now rather than waiting for a relationship to enjoy a sense of contentment and fulfillment).
However, I'm still thankful for reading this book when I did because of how applicable Segal's challenges are and how relevant the content truly is to everyone and anyone at any stage. I would absolutely recommend this book to single, dating, and married people alike so long as readers are prepared to think through living a life in pursuit of the Lord and His will now, not putting this off until you've found “the one”. No where does Segal promote the idea of finding fulfillment and identity in romantic relationships, putting off boundaries because there will be consequences, or living a passive life not worth deepening because of singleness.
Hope people keep picking this book up to read it and are encouraged as I was to live a God-honoring not-yet-married life now and one that continues to glorify and honor Him when I am married.