In this poignant memoir, as candid and indelible as The Glass Castle and Memorial Drive, a writer takes on the conflict between the love that binds us to home and the desire to escape it for good. On a highway in Houston, Texas, Sarah LaBrie's mother was found screaming at passing cars, terrified she would be murdered by invisible assailants. The diagnosis of schizophrenia that followed compelled Sarah to rethink her childhood, marked at turns by violence and all-consuming closeness. Digging into the events that led to her mother's break, Sarah traces her family history of mental illness, from the dysphoria that plagued her great-grandmother, a granddaughter of slaves, to her own experience with depression as a scholarship student at Brown. At the same time, she navigates a decades-long fixation on a novel she can't finish but can't abandon, her complicated feelings about her white partner, and a fraught friendship colored by betrayal. Spanning the globe from Houston's Third Ward to Paris to Tallinn and New York to Los Angeles, No One Gets to Fall Apart is an unflinching chronicle of one woman's attempt to forge a new future through a better understanding of the past.
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I can understand why Sarah LaBrie doesn't focus her memoir exclusively on her mother Kimberly's serious mental illness. Although the passages describing the beatings Sarah endured as a child and Kimberly's paranoid, psychotic behavior are horrifying (as is the rest of her family's denial of her illness), Sarah isn't defined solely by those Mommie Dearest moments. But the sad truth is that LaBrie's life just isn't that noteworthy otherwise. She's struggling to write a novel, she has mixed emotions about her best friend's rising fame, she can't understand how her white boyfriend radiates such steady confidence. (He's a white man, Sarah. ‘Nuff said.) The information about philosopher Walter Benjamin that is incorporated into her narrative gives off serious MFA thesis vibes but feels out of place.
I give LaBrie major props for exploring the complicated relationship between Black people and the mental health profession. But there's a lot of filler for a brief 200-page book.