I'm Afraid of Men

There can be things to gain from reading something like this but I'm always left unsettled at the stark level of posturing from trans woman. They truly believe in their minds that they are the minority and their levels of pain outweigh woman's when their issues don't derive directly from misogyny, as they weren't born as a woman in this world. They can still if they ever desired take off the makeup and clothes and go back to being a man and enjoy male privilege. It just makes feminism a joke that it's woman bearing the brunt of having to accept men as woman, and having to accept them into our limited spaces and have to adjust our limited gendered vocabulary (in reference to woman anatomy) to as not “offend” them. They can't be criticized otherwise you're just a “terf”

Vivek is very much on the defensive with this novel and tried to articulate the feelings of isolation and pain but the title alone and the topics covered just make me want to scoff in the audacity of it all. I use to not question things, I use to not object but as I've gotten older and realized just how much everything affects woman and I don't do that anymore. Sorry not sorry.

A must read. Short and insightful I suspect it will be pretty relatable in one way or another to anyone who struggled with their gender identify either profoundly or passingly. It's written beautifully but not in a needlessly flowery way.

“Why is my humanity only seen or cared about when I share the ways in which I have been victimized and violated?”

I'm Afraid of Men was such a great and thoughtful read that helped shine a light on topics surrounding gender, identity and trauma. I thought it was extremely powerful how the author focused on her own experiences, which are some that sadly many people share as well.

This was a fast, informative read that I think everyone should pick up.