If I Was Your Girl

trans 101 to the max. at least its by a trans person

A meaningful and mostly well written story about a trans girl finding herself and the myriad of consequences that come along with it.


That being said, I have complicated feelings about the author and the allegations against her. They would be a lot less complicated without the way the allegations were signal boosted by TERFs.

This story is so sweet and fast and full of new experience, like any coming of age story. It's got real friendships, jerks, and romance. The POV character is trans, and there is a whole other level of complexity to her life as a teenage girl.

We end on a hopeful note.

I don't really enjoy romance as a genre, but I read this one for the Book Riot 2021 Read Harder challenge. The characters sucked me right in. Well done.

Edit; changing my rating from 2 stars to 1 star because of how horrible this author is. please research this author before you read her books because the stuff she has done... you just cant seperate the art from the artist in this situation

I don't think I've read a story about a trans person before so I was excited to read this book but.. I didn't like the characters or story. I own another Meredith Russo book so hopefully I like that one better!

This review can also be found on my blog.

cw: homophobia, transphobia, violent hate crimes, suicide

I'm not planning to write a proper review because it took me forever to read this (because I started it on audiobook, had my hold expire, and then took a while to get the eBook). The audiobook is excellent, so well-narrated. The story itself is great and I loved it. My only nitpick was that the Homecoming scene felt overly convenient and not necessarily super realistic but that's really quite minor. Overall I'd definitely recommend this!

Read for my YA Lit class. A sometimes sweet, sometimes painful novel that does capture a lot of the essence of small towns and high school life in general. Amanda is a great character and, despite my usual hatred of real people on the covers of books, I love this cover and the model. 3.5/5, bumped up because I want to be BFFs with Amanda.

I don't read a lot of YA and this reeks of generic high school romance with some shallow characters, but that's okay and pretty much expected of YA in general. The plot issues I had were all swiftly dealt with in the author's note at the end and ultimately made sense for the purpose of the book.

The book is idealistic and hopeful and mostly uncomplicated, but honestly, I think that's fine for this book too. No book can cover all possible scenarios or personal struggles and it's not terrible for a book to offer education and hope. There were some genuinely funny and sweet scenes and overall it was well written.

mondtam már máskor is, hogy nem szeretek fontos témákkal foglalkozó könyveket lepontozni, de az if i was your girl sajnos tipikus példája az elsőkönyves pofáraeséseknek.

a létező összes klisét sikerült russónak belehánynia, és ha ez nem lenne elég, akkor mellé még nem is ír jól, aminek a lólába főleg ott lógott ki, hogy képtelen rendesen érzékeltetni az idő múlását. minden finomság nélkül, egy vemhes elefánt eleganciájával ugrik egyik fejezetből a másikba, szinte egyfolytában a fejemet vakartam, hogy mégis mennyi idő telt el, és ez nagyon zavaró volt.

a végén írja is, de már előtte megfogalmazódott bennem, hogy russo nem ismeretterjeszteni akar, hanem mesélni, ennek a műnek pedig az egyetlen különlegessége a transzneműség. ezt leszámítva hétköznapi tündérmese (hm, ez vajon oximoron?). ezzel persze egyáltalán semmi baj sincs, de én meglehetősen untam a kiszámíthatóságát. valami nagyobbra, ütősebbre, szebben fogalmazottra számítottam.
ugyanakkor nagyon jó, hogy van ez a könyv, mert igenis járnak az ilyen - a nyilvánvaló nehézségek ellenére is - pozitív hangvételű sztorik az lgbtq közösség tagjainak is.
és nem érdekel, mennyire felszínes ezt idebökni, de olyan szép a lány a borítóján!

RTC

As a book that could help transgender adolescents feel less alone or unwanted, If I Was Your Girl is an important resource. As a piece of literature that can appeal to readers of all ages, it falls just a little short. It feels at times like the author is trying to teach a course in Transgender 101 for cisgender readers. Also, Amanda's girlfriends at her new school are unlike any teens I've ever met - a diverse group that includes a lesbian, a conservative Christian and a popular fashionista, yet they all get along perfectly. They don't gossip, and they immediately take Amanda under their wing without a second thought. Maybe there's so much drama in the rest of Amanda's life that Meredith Russo decided to make this aspect uncharacteristically smooth, but it just doesn't ring true.

Having said that, I will admit that watching Amanda's father come to terms with his daughter's new identity is heartbreaking and rewarding. And I wanted Amanda's story to have a happy ending - or more appropriately for an 18 year old girl, a happy beginning. Meredith Russo is telling an important story; I just wish there had been a little more panache to the storytelling.

A moving book. Amanda was brave and stupid - as her dad says in the book - in the best way that teens can be. I also appreciated the author's note at the end reminding us that this isn't every trans persons' story but that's ok.

Random notes: 1) the narrator's Southern accent on the audiobook was a little distracting at times and I don't know why - it's accurate to the character, but it definitely made it jarring every time she said “you guys” instead of “y'all.”
2) maybe I'm cynical, but everything seems to work out awfully neatly at the end? I know the author's note at the end said she made some things easier intentionally (surgery, passing, hormones, etc) but how everyone was basically okay with Amanda at the end of the story was nice, but I wish I believed it would be that easy in the rural South in 2016.
3) I also didn't love how one of the villains of the story is a vindictive spurned bisexual?
4) I loved the writing of Amanda's parents and their struggle to adjust. All those relationships were really interesting and well-done, I thought. Some of the minor characters were flatter than I'd like, though.
5) I also really liked the structure of the book, with the slow reveals/flashbacks.

I don't know - I didn't love this, but I thought it was pretty well-done and worth reading/listening to. I was definitely engaged in the story and cheering for Amanda, all these nitpicky points aside. Well worth your time.

(Bookriot Read Harder 2016 Challenge: #12 Read a book by or about a person that identifies as transgender)

Loved this book so much! Knowing the community, some parts of this book weren't quite believable - however this is explained by the author at the end of the book (being more about positive exposure than factual accuracy).
This book is definitely aimed at a teenage audience and I think I would have enjoyed it even more if it had been aimed at a slightly older audience, but that does not in any way make it less enjoyable.
A brilliant book. I wish more people would read it.

So powerful, important, beautifully written, and at times heart-breaking. This book, and others like it, are so needed. Definitely pick this one up.

It's been a long time since I've read a YA novel with a contemporary setting, probably more than 10 years. So long, in fact, that the world itself has changed a great deal since I last read the genre! So while I do mostly read lgbt+ books, including books with trans characters although I am cis, this book was somewhat outside of my regular realm.

I listened to the wonderful audiobook, narrated by Samia Mounts, who really brought Amanda to life; she did a fantastic job of conveying Amanda's emotions, her joy and pain, in a very emotional book. I absolutely loved the narration. The writing style, too, was excellent. The author has an economy with words, I feel. There are a lot of sharp and evocative metaphors in this book, which I think probably serve to make Amanda's feelings more relatable, both to trans and cis readers. I gave my heart to Amanda from the beginning and was cheering for her at every turn. She's a well-developed character, too, with flaws - for example, It was hard to accept that she would turn away (slightly) from Virginia just to keep herself in the closet. However, I understood why Amanda did that, and I also think it was a good narrative choice, to make Amanda less than perfect.

I liked the ending a lot. Some reviewers seem to have understood it as a happy romantic ending. I wasn't sure that Amanda and Grant were going to get back together. They might, but I think it was meant to be open-ended. I could be mistaken, but my take on it was that the important thing, the actual ending, was Amanda sharing her story with Grant. I think that was a very powerful way to conclude this emotional story.

Too often those of us who don't belong to specific marginalized groups don't take the time to listen to members of those groups when they tell their stories. This book gives Amanda a voice, while the author's note (I enjoyed the audio author's note, btw, that was neato!) explains that Amanda's story is not the only set of life experiences that a trans person can have. I hope that this book will be widely read and that there will be many more books of its kind, and I eagerly await future books from this author.

Due to all the positive factors I mentioned above, I didn't want to knock a star off my rating because I really did enjoy the book. But I had one problem with it. I felt that Bee should have gotten more attention at the end. I didn't think that plot was resolved. I'm sorry to say this, too, but as a bisexual woman, I didn't like encountering the trope of the evil bisexual woman who just doesn't know how to be a good person. She gave her reasons for outing everyone, but it came out of the blue. I would have liked to see her situation addressed, somehow - she could've written to Amanda or someone else to apologize. I agreed, though, with Amanda's decision not to forgive her, and I do understand that this was Amanda's story, not Bee's.

I'm editing this to remove stars and my initial review. I urge people to Google the author's name and the word abuse or abusive.