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"Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Nobel Peace Prize winner, Chair of The Elders, and Chair of South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission, along with his daughter, the Reverend Mpho Tutu, offer a manual on the art of forgiveness... Tutu's role as the Chair of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission taught him much about forgiveness. If you asked anyone what they thought was going to happen to South Africa after apartheid, almost universally it was predicted that the country would be devastated by a comprehensive bloodbath. Yet, instead of revenge and retribution, this new nation chose to tread the difficult path of confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation... there are four important steps to healing: Admitting the wrong and acknowledging the harm; Telling one's story and witnessing the anguish; Asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness; and renewing or releasing the relationship"--summary for English edition from http://www.amazon.com/
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My girlfriend and I are getting ready to get married so naturally, I looked up a list of books about marriage to read. This came up as one of them.
It was very insightful. There was a bit of religiousness sprinkled in but I think more so the book had a tone of general spiritualness which I was more open to.
This book definitely gave me a better understanding of how a mindset governed by forgiveness would be beneficial. It also laid out pretty concrete guidelines, practices, and methods to work towards forgiveness in relationships, with other people or with your self.
I would highly recommend this book if you are feeling guilt, shame or conversely if you have been harmed by others. Or if you are like me and just want a better toolset before you embark on a big step, relationship-wise in your life.
The Fourfold Path of forgiveness: Telling the story, naming the hurt, granting forgiveness, and renewing or releasing the relationship. Also contains chapters on how to forgive yourself and how forgiveness heals the world/community. I thought this was book was good, and I appreciated the real-world examples for each of the steps and moving forward through the cycle of forgiveness instead of the cycle of revenge. I also really liked the poetry at the end of each chapter. Ultimately giving it three stars because though it's good material, it read kind of slow for me and it felt like parts were too long and repetitive.