A Man Called Ove

I hated this. I feel so betrayed by booktok! I thought this would be an amazing read but I had to force myself to finish it. It would get a two star purely because the writing is decent but I can't make myself put a second star.
UPDATE (WILL CONTAIN SPOILERS)
Okay.. I've had a few days of distance and I'm no longer too annoyed to write this. Here are my gripes:
Ove is an ahole. I know that's the point of the book. An angry old man who is in the throes of grief pushes everyone away and wants to end his life. But he was a jerk long before his wife died and we are just supposed to find it endearing? I'm sorry, no. Screaming, and literally exploding with rage at random times is frightening. I can't imagine anyone actually being in that situation and not being terrified he'd become physical. There are even a few times when he does take his anger out physically. I don't find it cute or funny to see someone have explosive anger. My next biggest issue is the animal abuse. He is violent, mean, and often dismissive of the animals in this book. He went so far as to set up a torture situation for the dog. Um.. excuse me? And we're suppose to sympathize with him? Parvaneh had to bully him into actually doing anything to help the dying cat. He pushes, shoves, and yells at the cat. This was really hard for me to handle. It made me seriously dislike him. Okay, now probably one of my biggest problems with the book... how unrealistic all the connections were. I'm sorry but if an angry man starts yelling at me, calling me names, being utterly rude and insufferable, I sure as hell am not going to befriend him. And most people wouldn't. Everyone literally pushed their way into his life and that just doesn't happen. I know it sounds jaded but seriously! Imagine someone being rude and mean to you.. would you go to them for help? And Parvaneh was terrible. When Anita first comes to Ove's door to ask for help with the radiator he says no. Parvaneh gets upset and says he WILL do it. Just no. Ove does not owe anyone his time and labor. If he said no, he said no. There's no reason she should have been shaming him into helping. Same with getting a ride to the hospital. This was a way to intervene with his suicide but it was sloppy. She could have asked literally ANYONE else in their area but she went to the one guy who is constantly saying to leave him alone? And AGAIN, he did not owe her his help. She could have gotten a cab, asked another neighbour, or even... wait for it, ASKED Ove?? Instead of demanding?? What a novel idea. There are so many different ways the author could have nurtured the connections between Ove and his neighbours but he chose ways that promote ignoring consent, bullying, and ways that felt contrived. People were made to look like imbeciles. Patrick was constantly ridiculed for not knowing how to do things; Adrian (a barista) has never encountered someone wanting black coffee before? Like, what?; The journalist was trapped in shed and passed off as an idiot as she talks calmly through the door (as if any woman getting trapped somewhere wouldn't immediately panic); Ove goes on and on about how he hates change and yet he's changed his car more times than just about anyone i've ever heard of. I didn't laugh once during this book. I never started to feel good about Ove. He was an a right until the bitter end while sprinkling in a few decent actions (which don't negate the other things he does/says). He is mean to everyone. He yells at everyone. He calls his neighbours idiots, blubberous (to which I took personal offense), hits people (the clown), cruel to animals, a nuisance to the people around him. He held a gun against two KIDS. Even after he realized who they were, he held them at gunpoint for way longer than necessary and then we're just supposed to accept that the kid he held the gun to felt comfortable staying in Ove's house??? I couldn't wait to be finished this book. It was awful.
I'm sorry to anyone who loves this book. I know it sucks when someone hates the book you love. I just couldn't find much redeeming about it. And I wish it had been done differently because I loved the premise. It was basically the old man of UP and I was super excited to read this. But I wish I could go back and never read it.