Joe
This book has some great advice and knowledge, but unfortunately the author didn't take into consideration the (other men) the men outside his culture. Not every man goes out fuc* women all weekends and not every man out their drink until death. He didn't generalize the advice, but rather he gave it to a pretty specific breed of men or culture and called it the every man's way.
I also Disagree so much with the marriage advice, the author doesn't seem to understand what he is talking about.
Normal Book....
Although this is my first horror book, i did sleep normally, that's a big no (excluding one day, we ain't gonna talk about that). The only vibe I got is that of an old Egyptian hotel located Infront of the beach, one I would pass by with grandpa saying this used to be a destination for foreigners. Gawad was a great character, but wtf was that ending?? Couldn't you give the receptionist a better ending?
قال الناس إن أوڤ رأى العالم بالأبيض والأسود. لكنها هي كانت بالألوان. كانت كلّ لون عرفه.
I hated that guy called Ove at first, how one dimensional he is, how much he is attached to an old stupid Saab car, how dry he is, how rude and clear he is, how routine oriented he is, how dead he is....The more i read through the more i saw that avoidant old grandpa for his true self. The memories that made him, how repressed he was at his childhood, how strict his dad was, how he learned that the only quality that makes a man is his own words. Ove was an avoidant one dimensional person, we got to see throught the book his whole life, chapters discussing his romantic life with his wife Sonia (one of the most beautiful and warm relationships i read in a book althought Ove never spoke word of love for her, it showed on every action, it showed in every sensation) , his work life, his life routine, his parents, his beleifs. I really got attached to him so fast, i felt like i'm like him on my own way of thinking, algthough i don't judge people by whether they are riding a Volvo or a Saab, but this guy gave me permision and hope that guys like us can normaly form relationships (beautiful ones too), can form great meaningful connections. This book made me dead ass laugh at myself, especially his relationship with the random cat outside his home. Avoidance exists lol.
I loved how Partinia (his crazy neighbour, as he worded it), kept always trying to pile his walls down and she succedd at that at the end. As the story went by, Ove became less and less avoidant. Not to mention how at first he was trying to end his life on daily basis, because life without Sonia was nothing, she left him in a word that couldn't understand his language, he felt suffocated, no hope in life, he just wanted to rest beside her coffin. I loved how emotionally dead he is, that he always thought in terms of the people he loved. I like this because Sonia would love it !! Didn't imagine i would cry for you Ove, but man i love how real the story convied avoidance and how we really think from the insides. Thank you Ove for giving me that confidence.
Some quotes from the book:
«سأكون في انتظارك هنا غداً مساءً عند الساعة الثامنة. أريدك أن ترتدي بذلة، وأودّ أن تدعوني للخروج معك لتناول العشاء».
أنّ معظم الرجال هربوا من قسوة الحياة، ولكن أوڤ ركض إليها.
وقال لها إنه سيحبّها. على الرغم من أنه كان يعرف أنه لا يمكنه أن يحبّها أكثر ممّا يحبّها أصلاً.
قالت صونيا في إحدى المرّات إنّه للتمكّن من فهم رجال أمثال أوڤ ورون، يجب على المرء أن يفهم منذ البداية أنّهم رجال موجودون في الوقت الخطأ. فهم رجال يطالبون فقط بأشياء قليلة وبسيطة من الحياة؛ كما قالت. إنهم يريدون سقفاً فوق رؤوسهم، وشارعاً هادئاً، وسيارة جيدة الصنع، وامرأة ليكونوا مخلصين لها، وعملاً يكون لديهم فيه دورٌ ووظيفةٌ مناسبان، ومنزلاً تنكسر فيه الأشياءُ بفتراتٍ مُنتظمة، فيكون لديهم دائماً شيءٌ ليصلحوه بغير براعة أو يشغلوا أنفسهم به. «جميع الناس يريدون أن يعيشوا حياةً جليلة وكريمة. ويختلف معنى الكرامة بالنسبة إلى كلّ شخص». قالت صونيا.
كان كما لو أنّه لا يريد أن يتحدّث إليه الناس الآخرون، وكان يخاف من أن تمحوَ أصواتُهم المُثَرثِرة ذكرى صوتِها هي.
«إذا كان هناك شيءٌ واحدٌ يمكن أن يُكتَبَ في نَعي أوڤ عند وفاته، فهو أنه كان على الأقلّ اقتصاديّاً في استهلاك الوقود».
A one of a kind book, this doesn't contain some cheap time hacks and productivity tips. This book is a psychological realistic outline for our limited time on this earth. Yes, probably 4000 weeks only, or even less.
It made me think a lot and question myself. It removed the clutter and the demand of these modern world. It simply gave me permission to not control every second of my day and stop trying to master my time because that's not possible. It gave me permission to sit and do nothing. You don't have to be the next Einstein or Elon musk. Just enjoy your life.
Just live every moment because it won't come back, you have to believe that you are finite and that your influence on this universe is near zero, enjoy the years you are given to live. I believe we are here just to improve ourselves and to show gratitude for God.
The time you are going to save is going to get used to another thing. Human beings are finite. They don't like doing challenging stuff that question their knowledge and current skills. So they simply avoid it. Saving email replies time won't help, bcz you are going to scroll on yt after or you will get distracted with more emails.
Be patient. Let things take its time. Don't try to control the pace of this world. Because the fatser you want the pace to go, the fater you will need to go. Enjoy the process of living.
And remember that you are a human being, you having much control over your time comes with a price, it makes it uneasier to sit with your kids, take a walk with a friend, stargaze etc. You are not anymore synced with your fellow humans, and that should remind you of the soviet union 5 days week experiment.
You need to live 60 times only to experience the whole human evolution.
If you want to control your time, deattach from it.
Skipped....one of the worst books i have ever read. I didn't benefit from this book at all. All i got out from this book is that having power is controlling your consequences. This book is simply not for me. All the author wants you is to pick some girls & play the cringe “game.” The book is full of immaturity and traumatic behaviours rephrased in some fancy academic writing. This book is far from the truth. 1/10
لما شوفت اسم الروايه، افتكرتها روايه بتتكلم عن العنصريه.
روايه جميله بتكلم فى المجمل عن التأثير النفسى للأسر و المأسور.
